I was chatting with a friend last week about his impending nuptials to a girl he's been dating since the end of last year.  Not to get into crazy detail, but when I met him about a year and a half ago, he was engaged to another girl.  Things went south and they broke it off and within a month, a new girlfriend (current fiancee) had moved in.  He proposed to her on Valentine's Day and they are planning a September wedding of this year.

This really got me thinking about the length of a "courtship" and if it really has anything to do with your success or failure as a married couple.  Firstly, there are the "when you know, you know" couples - the ones who meet, marry and move-in before you've even had the chance to grow your bangs out.  Then there are the "if it ain't broke" couples who don't need a piece of paper to define them and spend years, if not forever, together in unmarried bliss.

I speak with no judgment here, to each their own!  I just often wonder why some people can be so critical of the "when you know, you knows" and the "if it ain't brokes" without really understanding the in's and out's of their private relationship.  I've seen plenty of "when you know, you knows" break up, sure, but I've also witnessed several in my own family that have remained happily married for 25+ years.  On the flip side, there are those "if it ain't brokes" who stay unmarried and happy for decades, and others who've taken the plunge after 15 years of dating end up splitting after a married few.

Mr. Jet and I fall somewhere in the middle.  We met in May, started dating exclusively in October, moved in together the following September, got engaged 4 years later in March, and will have had about a year-and-a-half long engagement by the time we tie the knot in October.  We started off as the "when you know, you knows", sprinkled in a little "if it ain't brokes" and ended up here - with three months to go.

I pose this question to all of you - are you guys "when you know, you knows" or "if it ain't brokes" - or something a little in between??

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